Help: The Living Definition

A boot company's box was presented to me on my birthday. I took it as a sign that I needed to switch up my wardrobe, however, something ever more magical that floated my sneaker-loving, poetry-writing , boat. I opened up the box and snugly between the tissue paper was an Ipad. At that moment, the words "help" and "love" were defined for me. I'm not a materialistic person, don't let the sneakers, hoodies, and fleeces fool you., as the ones I buy can be expensive. I am uncomfortable asking for high end, pricey gifts, and only asked my sister and brother -in law as a joke. I didn't expect it. Love means "Ok, you can't ever buy this yourself, and you struggle sometimes, and I feel for that, and so here is what you asked for for your birthday as a joke." And help means "Here is something so you don't have to carry your computer up and down the stairs. I know I don't usually spend this much on a birthday gift, but I want to help you be happy."
    I have a sister and a brother in-law  anyone would envy. They seek to better my life and understand my life. My sister never hesitates to get right down in there and help, rather than just talk about it. She taught me what love is. Thanks to my sister and brother -in- law I have found new hope. I love you guys so much!

A different definition of "Help"-Part 1

Last week, I came across a great blog post.  And I thought "Wow, that's my life story! I should write about it!" But a lot of the time, as I sit down to type at my computer, my mind goes blank, instead my blog posts pop in my head when I am in bed, or at work.  I know that when people say "Have you thought of this, What do you want to do with your life, Have you just been working at the store?" they mean to help motivate me. If only motivating me were that easy. By "they" I could be talking about my family, acquaintances, or longtime friends, or even customers. I  understand they are trying to help. But that's not help. It's giving advice on what I should do with my life and sometimes this advice tells me I am doing something wrong right now.
       Another tactic for "help" is asking someone for something and this person might just tell you to ask someone else. Only sometimes, due to the fact that people have their own lives to attend to, my parents work, and it's hard for me to ask for help because I know that the possible response might be a cheerful "I wish I could, but why don't you ask ___________," I have asked this person because there is no one else to ask. How embarrassing is that! I cannot talk about it, because the fact that a lot of the people in my life are busy gets confused with the question of whether they love me or not. Sure they do; love has nothing to do with it, I'm a swell gal, I have a sense of humor. Love is the easy part. Practical help right then and there and shifting obligations to help me isn't as easy and I get it. I don't know if it's known I get it, so I just don't ask for help at all, even if I am urged to, and I don't even talk of my need of help.
How to help me the most? I appreciate a ride to an appointment, work, or to do errands without complaint or without a comment that it is so nice that a person drives me places. If I ask someone to do something, it's easier if this person does it without telling me to ask someone else. Accept that I work at a grocery store with a master's degree for health and dental insurance. Thinking about it, help to me means accepting who I am and following my lead.